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Techniques for Working with OH Cards

Techniques for working with metaphorical associative cards, grouped by consultation stages and request themes. Each technique includes a description of goals, recommended decks, and step-by-step instructions.

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A sincere conversation about me
Introduction

One of the deepest introductory techniques. It simultaneously relieves tension, introduces the client to three card-work methods, and gives the therapist a first impression of the client's personality.

DecksUniversal decks (OH and similar)
FormatFirst meeting · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Getting to know each other, relieving initial tension
  • Initial assessment of the client's personality and collaboration potential
  • Teaching the client three card-work methods: face-up selection, face-down selection, and direct signifying through metaphor
  • Creating an atmosphere of trust for further self-disclosure
  • Identifying the client's preferred ways of working with material
Steps
  1. The specialist browses the deck face-up selection, saying: 'Now I will choose cards that remind me of something from my life.'
  2. The chosen cards are laid out — they can be grouped in any convenient way.
  3. For each card, the specialist describes what it reminds them of from their life.
  4. The client is invited to repeat the exercise. It is important to note: if a card brings up something personal, there is no obligation to share it — simply placing it in the spread silently is enough.
  5. Next, face-down selection work is demonstrated: the specialist draws 3 cards with their backs up, flips them over, and voices the first thing that comes to mind.
  6. The client repeats the exercise — with the same caveat about personal associations.
  7. The third method is direct signifying: the specialist takes several cards and narrates through them what they want to say, explaining their choices.
  8. The client repeats, each time explaining why they chose that particular card.
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The Johari Window
Introduction

Introduction through the Johari Window model — exploring four areas of personality: the open self, the blind spot, the hidden self, and the unknown potential.

DecksUniversal (OH), or portrait decks with adapted prompts
FormatFirst meeting · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Getting to know the therapist and the client
  • Teaching basic card-work methods
  • Creating an atmosphere of sincerity
  • Initial self-discovery for the client
Steps
  1. The specialist briefly introduces the Johari Window model — a table of four personality zones.
  2. Open zone: a card is found face-up selection, reflecting 'what I know about myself and others also know.'
  3. The client repeats the exercise. Discussion: the card represents the part of our personality we show to the world.
  4. Blind spot: a card is drawn face-down selection — 'what others know about me, but I don't know myself.' It is placed to the right of the first card.
  5. The client repeats. Discussion: the blind spot can only be discovered through feedback from others.
  6. Hidden zone (Shadow): a card is found face-up selection — 'what I know about myself but hide from others.' It is placed below the first card.
  7. The client repeats. Discussion: this is the concealed part of personality, which psychology calls the Shadow.
  8. Potential: a card is drawn face-down selection — 'what nobody knows.' It is placed below the second card.
  9. The client repeats. Discussion: this is untapped potential, some of which can be recalled through activities abandoned in childhood and youth.
  10. In summary, it is noted that the four zones form a portrait of personality — the introduction is complete.
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Introduction
Introduction

A quick introduction through two polar cards: 'definitely me' and 'definitely not me.' Prompts the client to become aware of their Ideal Ego.

DecksPortrait (Persona, Personita), mono-decks of images (animals, houses, trees)
FormatFirst meeting · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Getting to know the therapist and the client
  • Teaching face-up selection card work
  • Prompting awareness of the client's Ideal Ego
Steps
  1. The specialist selects a card face-up selection: 'Definitely me' — 'this is absolutely about me.' They explain why this particular card.
  2. The client repeats the exercise.
  3. The specialist selects a card: 'Definitely not me' — 'this is absolutely not about me.' They explain their choice.
  4. The client repeats.
  5. Final explanation: the first card is the conscious part of personality we show to the world. The second is the rejected part; perhaps it is where the missing qualities or the source of problems are hidden.
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Presentation
Introduction

The simplest introduction: the client shows through two cards what they like and dislike about themselves.

DecksUniversal, narrative, allegorical
FormatFirst meeting · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Getting to know the therapist and the client
  • Teaching face-up selection card work
Steps
  1. The specialist sets the intent for the deck: 'I want to see something on a card that I like about myself.' They browse the deck face-up selection, select a card, and share the material.
  2. The client repeats the action.
  3. The specialist sets a second intent: 'I want to see something that I don't like about myself.' They find a card and share.
  4. The client repeats.
  5. The specialist wraps up: the introduction is complete.
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State check-in
State

A universal technique used repeatedly — before, during, and after intervention. Allows tracking the client's internal state through metaphor.

DecksAbstract (Ecco), portrait, universal, nature (Habitat), resource
FormatAt any stage of the session · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying the client's current state through imagery
  • Tracking state dynamics during the session
  • Evaluating intervention effectiveness
Steps
  1. The specialist asks the client to think about the situation being assessed and to imagine themselves in it. They ask: 'What do you feel?'
  2. The client browses the deck face-up selection and finds a card that resembles those feelings.
  3. The choice is discussed: what does the card and the client's state have in common.
  4. The client tracks where exactly in the body those feelings are located. Are they pleasant or not?
  5. The specialist asks the client to remember this sensation.
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Resource place
State

This technique is needed when the client is experiencing a state that interferes with engagement in the work. Especially relevant for trauma and acute distress.

DecksNature locations (Habitat), 'Resource Place'
FormatWhen the client is distressed · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Stabilising the client's internal state
  • Creating a safety anchor for further trauma work
  • Enabling a quick return to a resourceful state
Steps
  1. The client recalls a place where they felt very good — from childhood, a trip; what matters is not the location itself but the feeling.
  2. One or more cards are selected from the deck that resemble this place and evoke the same feelings.
  3. The choice is discussed: what do the cards and the memory have in common. The client notes where in the body the pleasant sensation is — and whether they can intensify it.
  4. The specialist confirms that looking at the card truly returns the client to a pleasant state.
  5. The client is told: if it becomes difficult, they can look at the card at any moment and mentally return to this place.
  6. During the work, if the specialist notices a decline in the client's state, they pause the work and invite the client to look at the card.
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Comparing myself with others
State

Corrects an exaggerated perception of one's own situation. Through comparison with those who are objectively worse off, a realistic assessment is restored.

DecksPortrait (Persona, Alter Ego)
FormatWhen the situation is dramatised · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Reducing the emotional charge around the problem
  • Returning to a realistic perception of the situation
  • Preparing for a search for specific solutions
Steps
  1. A card 'Me right now' is found face-up selection. The choice is discussed: what does the person on the card feel?
  2. Cards showing people who are suffering are selected face-up selection.
  3. From those, cards of people whose situation is even harder than the client's are singled out.
  4. For each card, a brief story: who is depicted, what happened to them, what they feel.
  5. The client draws a conclusion.
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A view from eternity
State

This technique changes the scale of problem perception through the viewpoints of different beings and epochs. It dissolves the feeling that the situation is insurmountable.

DecksUniversal, allegorical
FormatWhen overly involved · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Changing the scale of problem perception
  • Reducing dramatisation
  • Preparing for constructive work
Steps
  1. A card representing the problem is found face-up selection. The client notes where in the body unpleasant sensations are and how strong they are.
  2. The client imagines a Bedouin living in the medieval desert. They find a card showing how the problem would look through their eyes. They note any change in the body.
  3. The client imagines a cosmic being that has lived for a million years in open space. They find a card showing its view of the problem.
  4. The client imagines a Roman legionary in the front row of a cohort — in 3 minutes the battle with the Huns begins. How would he view the problem?
  5. The client imagines their distant ancestor — a wounded hunter carrying prey to a starving family through a winter forest. How would they perceive the client's problem?
  6. The client imagines God at the moment of creating the world — just moments ago there was primordial darkness, and now a world exists. How would they view the problem?
  7. At each step, bodily sensations are tracked — they should change.
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Checking problem relevance
Diagnostics

Helps determine whether the client truly suffers from the stated problem. Perhaps the real pain lies elsewhere — or the client was brought to the session without their own initiative.

DecksUniversal (OH), narrative (Saga, Myths), allegorical
FormatRequest validation · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Validating the initial request for authenticity
  • Filtering out imposed or false problems
Steps
  1. The client finds a card reflecting the stated problem. The connection between the card and the situation is discussed, and the client's state while looking at the card is noted.
  2. The client imagines a future in which the problem has somehow been resolved. They search for a card representing that situation.
  3. Key check: does a feeling of relief and joy arise when looking at the second card? Where are these feelings in the body? On a scale of 1–10, how strong are they?
  4. Conclusion: if there is no strong joy, the request is false and there is no point in working with it. The real problem lies elsewhere.
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Checking goal necessity · 1
Diagnostics

Verifies whether the stated goal is truly desired. Works through an in-depth exploration of expectations.

DecksUniversal
FormatGoal validation · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Validating the goal's authenticity
  • Uncovering hidden losses and gains from achieving it
Steps
  1. The client draws 5 cards face-down selection, placing them in a row with backs up.
  2. The first question is asked: 'What will achieving this goal give me?' The card is flipped, the answer is voiced, feelings are noted.
  3. Second question: 'What will I lose by achieving this goal?'
  4. Third: 'What will I gain if the goal is achieved?'
  5. Fourth: 'What will I forfeit if the goal is achieved?'
  6. Fifth: 'What will achieving this goal lead to?'
  7. The answers are summarised. Neutral or negative expectations = the goal is not significant. A positive reaction = the goal is genuine.
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Checking goal necessity · 2
Diagnostics

An extended goal check by comparing three images: the achiever, the non-achiever, and the one who knows why they are pursuing it.

DecksPortrait
FormatGoal validation · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Validating the authenticity and strength of the desire
  • Identifying externally imposed goals
  • Finding more relevant alternatives
Steps
  1. The client thinks about their goal.
  2. They select a card 'Me having achieved the goal'. They explain the choice, describe the character's feelings, and rate their joy from 1 to 10.
  3. They select a card 'Me not having achieved the goal'. They rate their disappointment from 1 to 10.
  4. They look for an alternative card — perhaps there is another option (for example, to wait). They rate its attractiveness.
  5. They determine which card they like more.
  6. They select a card 'Me knowing why I am pursuing this goal'. They clarify whether the card depicts themselves or someone else (parents, partner).
  7. They answer: why does the 'Knower' want this goal? Is the result the 'Achiever' obtained what the 'Knower' wanted?
  8. Conclusion: weak joy and weak disappointment = the goal is not important. The 'Knower' is not the client themselves = the goal is imposed. A mismatch between the 'Knower' and the 'Achiever' = a different goal is needed.
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A sincere conversation about the problem
Diagnostics

A key diagnostic technique. The client unfolds a description of the problem through a large card spread, providing material for further correction and provoking insights.

DecksUniversal or thematic (matching the request topic)
FormatPrimary diagnostics · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Obtaining a rich description of the problem from the client's perspective
  • Provoking insights about the problematic situation
  • Forming a spread for subsequent work stages
  • Giving the therapist time to plan the correction
Steps
  1. The specialist explains the purpose of the technique to the client.
  2. They ask the client to imagine that nothing about the problem has been shared yet — it is important to lay out all the material anew, otherwise the spread will be incomplete.
  3. The client browses the deck face-up selection, selecting cards in which they see something in common with their problem.
  4. The specialist reminds about the option of content-free work: cards with personal material can be added to the spread silently — what matters is that the client themselves knows what lies behind them.
  5. Cards can be grouped and arranged in any convenient order. The client voices what they see about the problem in each card.
  6. Next, the client draws cards face-down selection — they help reveal overlooked aspects. Work continues until the material is exhausted.
  7. When everything is laid out, the client looks at the overall configuration: perhaps something was missed. Cards for this material are selected through direct signifying.
  8. The client rearranges the spread by different logic — by importance, by time, by cause-and-effect. They choose a final configuration.
  9. The spread is photographed for further work. The technique is complete.
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Uncovering secondary gain
Diagnostics

Through a series of 8 card-answers, hidden benefits from the existence of the problem are revealed. Applied when the client seems 'stuck' in the problem and sabotages its resolution.

DecksAny universal, narrative, allegorical
FormatWhen signs of self-sabotage appear · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying reasons why the problem is beneficial to the client
  • Unblocking self-sabotage
Steps
  1. 8 cards are drawn face-down selection and placed in a row.
  2. First card: 'What would my problem say to me if it could speak?'
  3. Second: 'What does this problem protect me from?'
  4. Third: 'What good do I get from having this problem?'
  5. Fourth: 'What benefit do I gain from having this problem?'
  6. Fifth: 'What bad thing will happen if the problem goes away?'
  7. Sixth: 'Why do I need this problem?'
  8. Seventh: 'What lesson does my problem teach me?'
  9. All answers are voiced again. A summary conclusion is drawn.
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Working with the timeline
Diagnostics

Clarifying problem causes by determining when the problem originated. Work is conducted along an imaginary timeline of the client's life.

DecksPortrait
FormatIn-depth diagnostics · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Determining when the problem originated
  • Identifying the circumstances of its emergence
  • Searching for earlier similar experiences
Steps
  1. The client finds a card 'Me right now'.
  2. They find a card 'Me as a child'.
  3. Cards are placed left to right: first 'Me as a child,' then 'Me right now.' The client imagines a timeline passing through them — from infinity to old age and beyond.
  4. They recall a moment when everything was still fine. They find a card and place it on the timeline at the appropriate point.
  5. What happened next? They find a card 'Me when the problem began'. It is placed on the timeline. Discussion: what was happening then, what feelings were experienced.
  6. The client moves cards along the timeline, searching: perhaps something similar happened even earlier, when the same feelings arose?
  7. A conclusion is drawn about the discovered circumstances.
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Causes of my state
Diagnostics

Analysing the causes of a negative overall state through a spread of 6 prompt cards.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWhen there is no clear request · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Awareness and verbalisation of the causes of a poor state
Steps
  1. A card 'My state right now' is found face-up selection. The choice is discussed.
  2. 6 cards are drawn face-down selection and placed in a row.
  3. The first card is flipped. Discussion: what is visible on the card, what cause of the state does it point to?
  4. The same is done for the remaining five cards.
  5. The client groups the causes and notes the most 'charged' ones.
  6. A check is made: is anything missing? If so, a card for that cause is found face-up selection.
  7. Everything is voiced again. A conclusion is drawn.
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Four-level analysis
DiagnosticsAuthor: Н. Буравцова

Working with psychosomatic conditions caused by internal conflict. The situation is processed at four levels: bodily, emotional, cognitive, and physical.

DecksNarrative, universal, allegorical
FormatWorking with psychosomatics · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Processing psychosomatics at all levels
  • Identifying false beliefs that form the illness
  • Identifying blocked desires
Steps
  1. Bodily level: the client selects a card that best reflects their bodily sensations. Questions: 'What adjectives can describe the card? How do they relate to the sensations? How does your body react to this card?'
  2. Emotional level: the client selects a card reflecting their emotional state. Looking at both cards, they answer: 'What good purpose does this illness serve? What benefits do I get? What will happen if I am healthy? What does this illness not allow me to do? What does it compel me to do?' Answers with 'not' reveal which desires are being blocked.
  3. Cognitive level: the client selects a card symbolising life after fulfilling the discovered desires. Questions: 'What could the client allow themselves? How would their life change?' The answers identify deep needs blocked by an irrational belief.
  4. Physical level: the client selects a card answering: 'What unacceptable thing might happen if your desires came true?' The answer reveals the belief forming the illness.
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Answer with 1 card
Correction

Getting an answer to an important question through one card. A universal method applicable to virtually any request.

DecksUniversal, allegorical, word-based decks
FormatUniversal correction · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Getting a satisfying answer to an important question
  • Activating the client's own thinking
Steps
  1. The specialist formulates a question and speaks it aloud. The client draws a card face-down selection: 'The answer to your question will be on it.'
  2. The client examines the card. They are asked: 'What do you see on the card?'
  3. They are asked: 'How does this relate to your question?' — the client articulates the answer.
  4. Additional questions: 'What else is on the card that you overlooked?', 'What is unnecessary?', 'What is missing?'
  5. The client summarises: what answer they received.
  6. If the answer doesn't suit the client, the card is replaced. Usually within three cards a suitable answer is found.
  7. If even three face-down selection cards didn't work, the client browses the deck face-up selection until they find a card with an answer or a hint.
  8. The search is repeated until the client shows satisfaction with the result.
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Answer with 2 cards
Correction

An answer through a combination of a word card and a picture card. Activates both verbal and visual thinking simultaneously.

DecksAllegorical, universal, word-based decks
FormatUniversal correction · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Getting a satisfying answer to a question
  • Engaging both logic and intuition simultaneously
Steps
  1. The specialist formulates a question and speaks it aloud.
  2. A word card is drawn face-down selection. The client reads the word and responds: what it means to them and how it relates to the question.
  3. A picture card is drawn face-down selection. Discussion: what is visible, how it relates to the question.
  4. The picture card is placed next to the word. Discussion: how they combine, what they say together about the question.
  5. The client is asked: is another answer needed? If not, the technique is complete. If yes, it is repeated with new cards.
  6. The client articulates the answer they found.
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Universal correction framework
Correction

An extended problem-solving framework covering the goal, obstacles, actions, resources, secondary gains, and alternatives. Forces the client to think through all aspects.

DecksDifferent decks for different work stages
FormatUniversal correction · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Fully resolving the client's problem
  • Forming a specific action plan
  • Accounting for all significant factors
Steps
  1. Restate the working request.
  2. Place a 'current moment' card into the spread.
  3. Place a goal card.
  4. Find and represent with cards the obstacles to achieving the goal. Add to the spread.
  5. Find and represent the actions needed to achieve the goal — including overcoming obstacles. Lay them out in logical order between 'now' and 'goal.'
  6. Find and represent resources already available. Add to the spread.
  7. Determine what opportunities can be extracted from obstacles. Represent them and place next to the obstacle cards.
  8. Find the secondary gain from not achieving the goal. Add to the spread.
  9. Determine what can be done about the secondary gain. Add actions to the plan.
  10. Find and represent alternatives to achieving the goal.
  11. Rate readiness to follow the plan on a scale of 1–10.
  12. Rate readiness to take the first step right now on a scale of 1–10.
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Three cards
Correction

A quick technique for cases when the essence of the problem is already clear, time is limited, or a wow effect is needed for an impatient client.

DecksUniversal
FormatSimplified work · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Quick reflection on the problem
  • Analysis of causes
  • Searching for possible solutions
Steps
  1. A card representing the problem is found face-down selection. Discussion: what is depicted, how it relates to the problem, what is unnecessary, what is missing.
  2. A question is asked: 'What is the cause of this problem?' A card is drawn face-down selection. It is discussed in the same way.
  3. A question is asked: 'What are the possible solutions?' 3 cards (or 1 if time is very short) are drawn face-down selection. They are flipped in sequence and discussed.
  4. The found options are discussed.
  5. The material is voiced again. A conclusion is drawn.
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State check-in after the work
Session results

Checking intervention effectiveness by comparing the client's state before and after the work.

DecksAbstract, portrait, universal, nature, resource
FormatAt the end of the session · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Evaluating the effectiveness of the work done
  • Discussing the internal changes that occurred
Steps
  1. The client thinks about the situation and imagines themselves in it. They are asked: has the state changed compared to the beginning of the work?
  2. If yes, the client finds a card face-up selection reflecting the new state. They explain their choice and discuss the change in the context of the problem. Are the changes beneficial?
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Productive state
Session results

Boosting motivation by returning to a resourceful state of past successes. Creates an anchor for further action.

DecksPortrait, universal, resource, allegorical
FormatAt the end of the session · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Increasing readiness to follow the plan
  • Forming a resourceful state as an anchor
  • Working with the client's internal resources
Steps
  1. The client recalls a past situation where persistence helped them achieve a significant goal.
  2. They find a card face-up selection that is associated with that situation. The choice is discussed.
  3. They recall their state at that moment.
  4. They select face-up selection all cards that remind them of that experience. Cards are placed around the success card. The material is voiced.
  5. The client notes the feelings that arise when looking at the entire spread. Where in the body does the pleasant state emerge? They memorise it.
  6. They place their hand on that spot in the body and say aloud: 'I am the master of my life. I will achieve anything I want. I will fulfil any dream of mine.'
  7. They look at the card of the plan's first step. They place their hand on the same spot and repeat the same phrase.
  8. They rate their readiness to follow the plan from 1 to 10.
  9. They photograph the spread — it can be revisited when energy drops.
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A fairy tale about me
Session results

A motivational technique for pessimistic clients. By creating a fairy tale about themselves, the overall mood shifts towards a more optimistic one.

DecksFairy-tale (Saga, Mythos, 1001 Nights)
FormatAt the end of the session · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Shifting the overall mood to a more optimistic one
  • Creating an intention to change life for the better
  • Discovering personal resources through metaphor
Steps
  1. The client is invited to create a fairy tale about their life using cards from a fairy-tale deck.
  2. A card is found for the main character — someone similar to the storyteller. The choice is discussed.
  3. The tale begins with the words: 'Once upon a time there lived... [name]...'
  4. The client browses the deck face-up selection, looking for cues to develop the story. Each new card is a plot twist.
  5. The client concludes the fairy tale.
  6. If the tale turned out optimistic, the specialist praises it and discusses the connection of each card to the storyteller's problem.
  7. If the tale is negative, the client is invited to retell it with the same cards but with a happy ending where the hero overcomes adversity.
  8. The positive version is discussed: what helped the hero? Is there something similar in the storyteller's life?
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Point of view
Relationships

A short technique for understanding an opponent's position on a disputed issue.

DecksUniversal, narrative, allegorical
FormatDuring disagreements · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Understanding the opponent's point of view
  • Developing empathy in conflict
Steps
  1. A card 'My point of view on the disputed issue' is found face-up selection. The choice is discussed.
  2. A card 'How the opponent sees the disputed issue' is found face-up selection. The choice is discussed.
  3. If the answer is formulaic and not empathetic, another card is drawn face-down selection.
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Universal technique for improving relationships
Relationships

A comprehensive technique: from diagnosing the current state of the relationship to building a plan for improvement. Works through dialogue between cards.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWorking with relationships · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Improving the relationship with a chosen person
  • Forming an action plan
Steps
  1. From a portrait deck, a card representing the client is selected face-up selection. The choice is discussed.
  2. A card representing the person with whom the relationship needs improving is selected face-up selection. It is discussed.
  3. Questions are asked: 'What does the first card say to the second?' and 'What does the second say to the first?'
  4. A card answering 'What is their relationship like right now?' is selected face-up selection from a universal deck.
  5. Questions are asked: 'What does the first card think about this relationship?', 'What does the second think?'
  6. A goal card is selected — the desired relationship. It is placed opposite the 'current' card.
  7. Cards answering 'How can this relationship be improved?' are selected face-up selection.
  8. Cards answering 'What might hinder improvement?' are selected face-up selection.
  9. In each obstacle card, an opportunity for improvement is sought.
  10. A specific plan is composed: cards for each stage are laid out in chronological order from 'now' to 'goal.'
  11. Timelines for the plan are discussed.
  12. The questions are revisited: what do the client's and the other person's cards now say to each other?
  13. Summary.
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Changing a negative attitude
Relationships

By shifting perspectives, empathy is activated towards a person the client feels negatively about. It breaks down a simplified black-and-white perception.

DecksAny portrait decks
FormatWorking with relationships · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Changing a negative attitude through empathy
  • Discovering positive sides of the person
  • Breaking down simplified images
Steps
  1. A card is found face-up selection: 'How do I know this person?' The choice is described.
  2. Face-up selection — a card: 'How do people who are emotionally connected to them know them?' (mother, friends, children, close ones). This shifts attention to their positive qualities.
  3. Face-down selection — a card: 'How does nobody know them?' This shifts focus to internal motivations.
  4. Face-up selection — a card: 'Who are they really?' At this stage the client is forced to abandon the simplified image, integrating new traits.
  5. The client clarifies: what emotions does the new image evoke?
  6. A summary conclusion is drawn.
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Reframing conflicted relationships
Relationships

Working with perception of self and opponent from four angles: how I see myself, how I see the other, how I think the other sees me, how the other sees themselves.

DecksAny portrait decks
FormatDuring conflict · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Reframing the conflict through understanding the opponent
  • Breaking down simplified mutual images
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do you see yourself in this conflict?' Discuss the choice.
  2. Card: 'How do you see your opponent?'
  3. Card: 'How do you think the opponent sees you?' Place next to the first card. Note the difference: how you see yourself vs. how the other sees you.
  4. Card: 'How do you think the opponent sees themselves?' Place next to the second card. Note the difference: how you see them vs. how they see themselves.
  5. Card: 'Who are you really?' Add to the self cards.
  6. Card: 'Who is the opponent really?' Add to the opponent cards.
  7. Draw a summary conclusion.
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Accepting personal responsibility
Relationships

Returning responsibility for the relationship to the client, awareness of one's own contribution to its deterioration, and understanding the vicious cycle mechanism.

DecksUniversal
FormatDuring conflict · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Returning responsibility to the client
  • Awareness of one's own contribution to the conflict
  • Understanding the escalation mechanism
Steps
  1. A card 'Current situation' is selected face-up selection. What is happening in the relationship is discussed.
  2. Face-down selection — a card: 'What in this situation depends on you?'
  3. Face-down selection — a card: 'What negative do you bring to the relationship?'
  4. Face-up selection — a card: 'How does the opponent react to this negative?'
  5. Face-up selection — a card: 'How do you react to the opponent's reaction?' The vicious cycle is discussed.
  6. Summary. The question is asked: what does the client want to do about it? If necessary, a new working request is formulated.
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Clarifying relationships
Relationships

A compact analysis of complex relationships through 5 card questions.

DecksUniversal, narrative, allegorical
FormatWorking with relationships · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Analysing a 'complicated' relationship with anyone
  • Determining one's own and the other's contribution
  • Finding specific actions for improvement
Steps
  1. Question: 'What is not working in the relationship?' A card is found face-up selection; the material is voiced.
  2. Question: 'What do I bring to the relationship?' Face-up selection; discussed.
  3. Question: 'What does the partner bring?' Face-up selection.
  4. Question: 'What is working in the relationship?' Face-up selection.
  5. Question: 'What do I need to do to improve the relationship?' Draw 3 cards face-down selection. Flip them in sequence, voicing the actions.
  6. Summary.
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Clarifying long-term relationships
Relationships

A spread for 'complicated' long-term relationships when the client says 'I'm confused.' Works through past, present, future, and scenarios of continuing vs. ending.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWhen feeling confused · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Unpacking confused long-term relationships
  • Looking at the relationship from different sides
  • Understanding scenarios of continuing and ending
Steps
  1. Face-up selection from a portrait deck — a card: 'Who am I in our relationship?'
  2. Face-up selection from a portrait deck — 'How do I see my partner in our relationship?'
  3. Face-up selection from a universal deck — 'What do the card characters feel about each other?'
  4. Face-up selection from a universal deck — 'What brought us together in the past?'
  5. Face-down selection from a universal deck — 'What keeps us together now?'
  6. Face-down selection from a universal deck — 'What awaits our union in the future?'
  7. Face-up selection from a portrait deck — 'Who will I be if I stay in this relationship?'
  8. Face-up selection from a portrait deck — 'Who will I be if I end this relationship?'
  9. Summary. Face-down selection — a card: 'What feelings and thoughts do I leave this session with?'
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Why relationships don't work out
Relationships

Helps the client recognise their own contribution to the development of relationships and find a new strategy for building them.

DecksUniversal and portrait + resource
FormatRelationship diagnostics · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Awareness of one's role in relationships
  • Finding a satisfactory strategy for building them
Steps
  1. The card-drawing method can alternate between face-up selection and face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'Who am I in relationships?' — preferably face-up selection, from a portrait or universal deck. Discuss: how does the card describe behaviour and role in relationships.
  3. Card: 'What kind of relationships do I build?' — from a universal deck. Discuss: how does the card describe the relationship, what feelings does it evoke.
  4. Card: 'What am I doing wrong?' — preferably face-down selection. Discuss how the card resembles one's own behaviour. What do other people feel? What are their needs?
  5. An advice card for building strong relationships — from a resource or universal deck. Questions: 'How does this remind me of my situation? What conclusion can I draw? How can I put it into practice?'
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Conflict management
Relationships

Exploring the content of a conflict and seeking possible resolution through 4 cards: cause, my behaviour, the opponent, solution.

DecksUniversal, portrait, resource
FormatDuring conflict · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Understanding the causes and content of the conflict
  • Developing a resolution strategy
Steps
  1. A card describing the cause of the conflict (face-up selection or face-down selection). Questions: 'What is depicted? What am I unhappy with? What do I feel? What do I want but am not getting?'
  2. A card describing the habitual conflict behaviour style (preferably face-down selection). Questions: 'What is the depicted person doing? What are they striving for? What would I like to change?'
  3. A card describing the opponent in the conflict. Questions: 'What is the depicted person unhappy with? What are they striving for? How do they feel?' — to understand the opponent's position.
  4. An advice card — resolving the conflict situation (from a resource deck). Questions: 'What is the conclusion? How to put it into practice? How has my view of the conflict changed?'
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The meaning of conflict
Relationships

A deep exploration of conflict: not just its causes but also its secondary gains. Especially useful for prolonged, seemingly causeless, recurring arguments.

DecksUniversal or thematic, portrait and resource
FormatDuring prolonged conflicts · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Making a conscious decision about exiting the conflict
  • Exploring one's own behaviour during arguments
  • Identifying secondary gains of the conflict
Steps
  1. Question: 'Who am I?' — face-up selection. Universal prompt for the entire technique: what is visible on the card, who the client recognises themselves in, explore the character's thoughts, feelings, goals.
  2. Question: 'How do I behave during a conflict?' — face-down selection. Detailed card description, emotional response.
  3. Question: 'What helps me in conflict?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  4. Question: 'What hinders me in conflict?' — face-down selection, can use a crisis deck.
  5. Question: 'Why do I need the conflict? What is my gain?' — may cause resistance. Suggest personifying the conflict: let it have a symbolic image on a card. How would the card's mood change if the conflict were 'removed'?
  6. Question: 'What do I gain in this situation?'
  7. Question: 'What do I sacrifice, what do I lose because of the conflict?' — face-down selection, can use a crisis deck.
  8. Question: 'How can I change my behaviour?' — face-down selection, an advice card from a resource deck. Final questions: 'What specifically can I do today? What resources do I have?'
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Harmonising relationships
Relationships

Analysing the current state of the relationship, the contributions of both partners, and finding a path to harmony through 4 cards.

DecksThematic, portrait, universal
FormatWorking with a couple / family · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Analysing the current state of the relationship
  • Exploring one's own contribution and the partner's contribution
  • Finding a path to harmony
Steps
  1. Face-up selection from a couples deck — a card: 'What is the relationship like now?' Questions: 'What do the depicted people feel? What would you like to change in the card?'
  2. Face-down selection — a card: 'How do I behave in the relationship?' Questions: 'How does this affect life? What does the partner feel at this time?'
  3. Face-down selection — a card: 'How does my partner behave?' Pay attention to how this changes the image of the partner.
  4. Face-down selection — a card: 'What will help improve the relationship?' Questions: 'How does this describe my situation? What can I do? What should I pay attention to?'
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Give and take
Relationships

Diagnosing the 'give-take' balance. Imbalance leads to exhaustion of one side and relationship breakdown. Helps recognise the imbalance.

DecksThematic, universal
FormatBalance diagnostics · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Awareness of the give-receive balance in the relationship
  • Identifying exhausting situations
  • Restructuring the relationship
Steps
  1. Card: 'What do I want to receive from the relationship?' — face-up selection from a thematic or universal deck.
  2. Card: 'What do I actually receive?' — face-down selection from the same decks.
  3. Card: 'What do I want to bring to the relationship?' — face-up selection.
  4. Card: 'What do I actually give?' — face-down selection.
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Loneliness
Relationships

Helps understand what in one's behaviour and attitude towards the opposite sex prevents building close relationships.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWorking with relationships · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Understanding the reasons for the absence of relationships
  • Identifying destructive behavioural patterns
  • Determining the direction of change
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I perceive myself?' — face-up selection from a portrait or universal deck.
  2. Card: 'Who am I in relationships with the opposite sex?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How do I relate to the opposite sex?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What do I need to do / what do I need to change in myself?' — face-down selection.
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Ideal relationships
Relationships

Forming an image of desired relationships and diagnosing factors that prevent building them.

DecksThematic, universal
FormatWorking with relationships · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Forming an image of desired relationships
  • Diagnosing hindering factors
  • Determining the direction of work
Steps
  1. Card: 'What kind of relationship do I want?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'What kind of relationship do I actually build?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'What prevents achieving harmony?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What should I strive for / what do I need to change in myself?' — face-down selection.
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Checking goal necessity
Goals and decisions

A universal authenticity check for any goal by comparing images of the achiever, the non-achiever, and the one who knows why.

DecksPortrait
FormatGoal validation · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Validating the stated goal's authenticity
  • Identifying externally imposed goals
  • Finding more relevant alternatives
Steps
  1. The client thinks about their goal.
  2. They select a card 'Me having achieved the goal'. They rate their joy from 1 to 10.
  3. They select a card 'Me not having achieved the goal'. They rate their disappointment.
  4. They look for an alternative card — perhaps there is another option? They rate it.
  5. They determine which card they like more.
  6. Card 'Me knowing why I am pursuing this goal'. They clarify: is the client depicted or someone else?
  7. They answer: why does the 'Knower' want this goal? Does the 'Achiever' match their desire?
  8. Conclusion: weak motivation or a mismatch = the goal needs reconsideration.
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Defining goal stages
Goals and decisions

Forming a sequence of actions from the current state to the goal through step cards.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWorking with a goal · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Obtaining a sequence of actions towards the goal
  • Planning specific steps
Steps
  1. The client thinks about the goal.
  2. They select a goal card face-up selection. The choice is discussed.
  3. They select a card 'current situation' face-up selection. It is discussed.
  4. The cards are placed opposite each other.
  5. Question: 'What do I need to do to achieve the goal? What steps should I take?' An answer card is selected from a universal deck. The action is described. The card is placed between 'now' and 'goal.' This is repeated until clarity emerges or material is exhausted. Face-up selection, face-down selection, or direct signifying can be used.
  6. Cards are arranged along a timeline in logical sequence.
  7. The client summarises: what needs to be done and in what order.
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Identifying obstacles
Goals and decisions

Identifying obstacles on the path to the goal with the option of grouping them — for example, into external and internal.

DecksPortrait or universal
FormatWorking with a goal · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying obstacles on the path to the goal
  • Systematising them for further work
Steps
  1. The client thinks about the goal.
  2. They select a goal card face-up selection.
  3. Face-up selection — a card 'current situation'.
  4. Cards are placed opposite each other.
  5. Question: 'What is preventing me from achieving the goal?' Obstacle cards are placed between the two cards. Face-up selection, face-down selection, or direct signifying can be used.
  6. Obstacles are grouped: by degree of difficulty or into external/internal. Portrait cards can be used for internal obstacles.
  7. A summary conclusion is drawn.
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Turning obstacles into resources
Goals and decisions

Changes the perception of obstacles: they stop seeming insurmountable, and motivation to act grows. Requires a pre-existing spread with a goal and obstacles.

DecksUniversal
FormatWorking with a goal · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Reappraising obstacles
  • Increasing motivation to act
  • Discovering opportunities within difficulties
Steps
  1. A pre-existing spread with 'now,' 'goal,' and obstacle cards is needed. The material is voiced.
  2. Take the first obstacle card. Question: 'What opportunity towards the goal is hidden in this obstacle? How can it be used for good?' As a hint, draw a new card (face-up selection or face-down selection). Voice the answer. Place the opportunity card opposite the obstacle card.
  3. Repeat for all obstacles.
  4. Draw a conclusion: what opportunities were found.
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Finding opportunities and resources
Goals and decisions

Identifying resources that help achieve the goal. Complements the set of goal-oriented techniques.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWorking with a goal · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying resources for achieving the goal
  • Systematising them
Steps
  1. The client thinks about the goal.
  2. Face-up selection — a goal card.
  3. Face-up selection — a 'current situation' card.
  4. Cards are placed opposite each other.
  5. Question: 'What can help me achieve the goal?' Prompt cards are drawn. Answers are voiced. Answer cards are placed between 'now' and 'goal.'
  6. Resources are grouped: important/unimportant, internal/external.
  7. A conclusion is drawn.
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Goal work using Dilts levels
Goals and decisionsAuthor: Р. Дилтс

Comprehensive work on a large-scale goal through Robert Dilts's neurological levels: beliefs, identity, values, knowledge, skills, actions, environment.

DecksUniversal
FormatWorking with a large-scale goal · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Increasing chances of achieving a large-scale goal
  • Comprehensive change of all influencing factors
Steps
  1. Face-up selection — a card associated with the goal. Describe it.
  2. Draw answer cards face-down selection one by one for the following questions:
Card prompts
  • Beliefs: What do I need to believe in to achieve the goal?
  • Identity: What kind of person do I need to be?
  • Values: What should be important to me?
  • Knowledge: What knowledge is needed?
  • Skills: What abilities and skills are needed?
  • Actions: What actions should I take?
  • Environment: What kind of people should surround me?
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Secondary gain from not achieving the goal
Goals and decisions

Identifying hidden benefits from not achieving the goal, which cause the client to unconsciously sabotage progress towards it.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWhen goal sabotage is present · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying hidden benefits from not achieving the goal
  • Unblocking sabotage
Steps
  1. A goal card is found face-up selection.
  2. Cards reflecting the benefits of achieving the goal are added to the spread.
  3. Question: 'Why is it beneficial for me not to achieve the goal?' Answer cards are added to the spread.
  4. The benefits are analysed and grouped.
  5. A conclusion is drawn: how these benefits affect goal achievement.
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Finding secondary gain from the problem
Goals and decisions

Identifying benefits from the problem's existence. A simple version for cases when problem resolution is being sabotaged.

DecksPortrait, universal
FormatWhen problem resolution is being sabotaged · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying hidden benefits from the problem's existence
  • Unblocking resolution sabotage
Steps
  1. Face-up selection — a card symbolising the problem.
  2. Discuss: what do the problem and the card have in common? What is unnecessary, what is central?
  3. Question: 'Why is it beneficial for me not to solve this problem?' Answer cards are added to the spread (face-up selection and face-down selection).
  4. Benefits are grouped and arranged by importance.
  5. Conclusion: how these benefits affect the problem's persistence.
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Choice through detailed analysis
Goals and decisions

Choosing through analysis of pros and cons of each option. For cases when it is better to choose with the mind rather than feelings.

DecksUniversal, allegorical
FormatDecision-making · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Certainty through rational analysis
  • Accounting for the pros and cons of each option
Steps
  1. Think about the choice situation.
  2. Find cards representing each option.
  3. Find the pros for each option.
  4. Find the cons for each option.
  5. Based on new knowledge — has the attitude towards the options changed? If so, replace the unsuitable option cards.
  6. Summarise.
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Choice in a life-defining situation
Goals and decisions

For cases when the short-term consequences of a choice are pleasant but the long-term ones are not. Works by looking at oneself in one year, 10 years, and in old age for each option.

DecksUniversal, portrait
FormatLife-changing decision · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Long-term perspective on the choice
  • Accounting for consequences at different time horizons
Steps
  1. Think about the choice situation.
  2. Find cards for each option.
  3. Imagine a timeline extending from the option cards to old age.
  4. For each option, select a card from a portrait deck: 'me in one year'. Place it on the timeline.
  5. Repeat for the image 'me in 10 years'.
  6. Repeat for the image 'me in old age'.
  7. Question: 'Which option do you prefer?'
  8. Summarise.
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Descartes Square
Goals and decisions

Decision-making aid through examining four sides: pros of deciding, pros of not deciding, cons of deciding, cons of not deciding. Each question is explored with two cards — face-up selection and face-down selection.

DecksUniversal, allegorical
FormatDecision-making · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • A comprehensive view of the decision
  • Awareness of all aspects for and against
Steps
  1. Face-up selection — a card: 'What are the pros of making this decision?' Discuss. Repeat face-down selection. Discuss.
  2. Face-up selection — a card: 'What are the pros of not making this decision?' Discuss. Repeat face-down selection.
  3. Face-up selection — a card: 'What are the cons of making this decision?' Discuss. Repeat face-down selection.
  4. Face-up selection — a card: 'What are the cons of not making this decision?' Discuss. Repeat face-down selection.
  5. Ask: has the attitude towards the issue changed?
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The need for approval
Self-discovery

Teaches the client to notice moments when the need for approval pushes them to act against their own interests. Works with the bodily discomfort of not meeting expectations.

DecksPortrait, universal, narrative
FormatWorking with personal boundaries · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Awareness of moments of yielding due to the need for approval
  • Working with bodily discomfort
  • Strengthening personal boundaries
Steps
  1. Recall 4–5 people whose approval the client especially awaits. Those to whom it is unpleasant to say no or fail to meet expectations.
  2. Find cards symbolically representing each of these people. Discuss the choices.
  3. Rank the cards by increasing discomfort from having to refuse.
  4. Start with the least important person. Imagine a refusal situation. Find a card for that situation. In a portrait deck, find a card showing how the person will look when their expectations are not met. Place it over the first card. Track the unpleasant feeling in the body. Place a hand on that spot and say aloud the 'Gestalt prayer':
'You are you. And I am I. I do my thing, and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. If we happen to find each other, it is beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.'
  1. Repeat for the remaining people, moving towards the most important. With each 'prayer,' try to relax the body.
  2. Discuss what happened with the client. Suggest practising in real life — saying 'no' even where one could have agreed.
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Know yourself
Self-discovery

A foundational technique for the request 'how do I find myself.' Helps establish the point of 'where I am now,' 'where I want to go,' and 'how to get there.'

DecksUniversal or fairy-tale + resource for advice
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Addressing the self-realisation request
  • Building a personal development roadmap
  • Motivation to take action
Steps
  1. Card: 'Who am I?' — drawing method is not critical.
  2. Card: 'What do I need?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How can I achieve what I need?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck. Usually three advice cards are enough.
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Persona
Self-discovery

Working with two parts of personality according to Jung: the Persona (mask) and the Shadow (hidden parts).

DecksUniversal, fairy-tale, portrait
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Seeing oneself from different sides
  • Getting acquainted with the Persona — the mask we present to the world
  • Getting acquainted with the Shadow — unintegrated parts
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I want to show myself?' — face-up selection. Priority — portrait deck.
  2. Card: 'What do I want to hide?' — face-down selection. Fairy-tale or universal.
  3. Card: 'What am I protecting myself from?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'How do others see me?' — face-down selection. Preferably portrait.
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Good me, bad me
Self-discovery

Integrating different sides of oneself into a holistic, multifaceted image instead of a black-and-white one.

DecksUniversal, portrait, fairy-tale
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Seeing oneself from different sides
  • Integrating insights into a holistic image
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I show myself to the world? (Persona)' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'My good, light side' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'My bad, dark side' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'My real, true Self' — face-down selection.
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Secondary gain
Self-discovery

Compact work with secondary gain in the context of self-discovery. Helps find the hidden bonus from staying in a problem and alternative ways to satisfy the underlying need.

DecksUniversal or fairy-tale + resource for advice
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Finding the hidden bonus from a problematic state
  • Finding new ways to satisfy the underlying need
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I explain the problem / illness / my behaviour?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'Why do I actually need this?' or 'What important thing do I get as a result of the problem?' — face-down selection. Note: with some clients the first question may feel like an accusation — choose the wording carefully.
  3. Card: 'How else can I satisfy this need?' — face-down selection. From a resource deck. Multiple advice cards can be drawn.
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Self-doubt
Self-discovery

A spread of 8 cards for shifting focus from insecurity towards developing strengths, unlocking potential, and boosting self-esteem.

DecksUniversal, portrait, resource, fairy-tale
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Motivation for positive change
  • A specific action plan
  • Unlocking potential
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I see myself?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'How do others see me?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'My hidden potential' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  4. Card: 'What blocks my potential?' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'What do I need to realise to find self-confidence?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  6. Card: 'What are my strengths and resources?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  7. Card: 'What do I need to do practically to succeed?' — face-down selection.
  8. Card: 'How will this change my life?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
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Personality analysis
Self-discovery

A detailed scan of the client's inner world through 8 cards: from the visible side to the spiritual light.

DecksUniversal, portrait, fairy-tale + coaching and money-related
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Detailed analysis of the inner world
  • Understanding relationships with oneself, people, and the world
  • Finding paths for development
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I see myself?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'My visible side' — face-up selection.
  3. Card: 'My shadow side' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'My strong side, hidden capabilities' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  5. Card: 'The influence of society, surrounding people' — face-down selection.
  6. Card: 'Finances, work, career' — face-down selection, from a money or coaching deck.
  7. Card: 'What is holding me back from developing?' — face-down selection.
  8. Card: 'The spiritual light within me' — face-down selection, from a resource or existential deck.
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Self-analysis
Self-discovery

A comprehensive personality analysis through the lens of Ego, Persona, and Shadow. Forms a holistic self-view.

DecksUniversal, portrait, fairy-tale
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Analysis of Ego, Persona, and Shadow
  • Forming a holistic self-view
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I express myself?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'How do I perceive myself?' — face-up selection.
  3. Card: 'How do others perceive me?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'My weak side, my problem' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'My strong side' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  6. Card: 'Shadow, the hidden, the secret' or 'What do I hide from myself and others?' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'What drives me? What is my motivation?' — face-down selection.
  8. Advice card: 'What should I strive for?' — face-down selection, from a resource or fairy-tale deck.
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Purpose
Self-discovery

Searching for one's purpose — an activity in which a person realises their values and skills while benefiting the world.

DecksUniversal, resource, existential (LightShadow, Insight)
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Finding one's purpose
  • Connecting desires, abilities, and the world's needs
Steps
  1. Card: 'What do I want?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'What can I do?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'What does the world need from me?' — face-down selection, from an existential deck.
  4. Card: 'What is my purpose?' — face-down selection.
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Mission
Self-discovery

Gaining an understanding of one's personal mission — the main goal one lives for. Provides an inner backbone and guides life-changing decisions.

DecksUniversal, resource
FormatSelf-discovery · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Understanding one's personal mission
  • Forming internal guiding principles
  • A foundation for life-changing decisions
Steps
  1. Card: 'Who am I?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'What can I do?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How do I envision my mission?' — face-up selection.
  4. Card: 'What is my true mission?' — face-down selection.
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Money flow
Finance and career

Explores how behaviour and mindset affect the financial flow. Especially effective for clients with unstable income or financial stagnation.

DecksMoney and coaching + portrait and resource
FormatWorking with finances · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying obstacles to financial well-being
  • Finding ways to overcome them
Steps
  1. Card: 'What is blocking my money flow?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'What strengthens my money flow?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'What do I need to change to strengthen my money flow?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck. Multiple recommendation cards can be drawn.
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Me and money
Finance and career

Exploring money mindset through 4 cards: how I relate to money, how money relates to me, what money likes about me, what it doesn't like.

DecksMoney, portrait, universal
FormatWorking with finances · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Exploring the money mindset
  • Understanding the relationship with money
Steps
  1. Card: 'How do I relate to money?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'How does money relate to me?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'What does money like? In what situations does it come to me?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What doesn't money like? In what situations does it leave?' — face-down selection.
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Money scenario
Finance and career

Exploring the money scenario inherited from childhood and family lineage. A detailed 8-card spread for reconsidering inherited attitudes.

DecksMoney, universal + fairy-tale and resource
FormatWorking with finances · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Awareness of unconscious money attitudes
  • Working with family-lineage scenarios
  • Reconsidering inherited attitudes
Steps
  1. Card: 'How easily does money come to me?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'How do I spend money? How do I save it?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'My subconscious attitude towards money' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'How was money treated in my family lineage?' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'How has my family lineage influenced my relationship with money?' — face-down selection.
  6. Card: 'What attitudes towards money have I acquired during my life?' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'How can I attract money to myself?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  8. Card: 'How do I need to change my attitude towards money?' — face-down selection.
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Profession
Finance and career

A professional identity portrait: how the client sees themselves as a specialist, what changes they expect, how satisfied they are. Useful when there are doubts about the career path.

DecksPortrait, fairy-tale, universal
FormatCareer question · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Understanding professional identity
  • Assessing job satisfaction
  • Looking into the professional future
Steps
  1. Card: 'Who am I in my profession?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'My subconscious attitude towards myself as a professional' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How things really stand' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'How do I see my professional future?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
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Me in my profession
Finance and career

A detailed analysis of the professional sphere: success, relationships with colleagues, value alignment, and paths to harmony.

DecksPortrait, money and resource
FormatCareer analysis · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Analysing career success
  • Relationships with colleagues and clients
  • Paths to harmonising the professional sphere
Steps
  1. Card: 'Who am I in my profession?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'Who am I with colleagues and management?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'Who am I with clients?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'Am I satisfied with my income?' — face-down selection, from a money deck.
  5. Card: 'Are my ambitions satisfied? Do I feel recognition in my profession?' — face-down selection.
  6. Card: 'External factors that hinder me' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'Internal limiting factors' — face-down selection.
  8. Advice card: 'What to do? What to strive for?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
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Career
Finance and career

Identifying a career goal and obstacles on the path, building a route to success.

DecksMoney or universal + coaching or resource
FormatCareer planning · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying a career goal
  • Determining obstacles
  • Building a route to success
Steps
  1. Card: 'What does career mean to me?' — face-up selection or face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'What in my experience or situation can I not change?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'Past experience influencing success' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What do I need to do to achieve success?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
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Changing jobs
Finance and career

Helps make a considered decision about whether changing jobs is appropriate by comparing feelings in two scenarios.

DecksUniversal, money, portrait
FormatDecision about changing jobs · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • A considered decision about changing jobs
  • Comparing stay vs. leave scenarios
Steps
  1. Card: 'My work situation now' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'My desires, needs, motivation' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How will I feel if I change jobs?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'How will I feel if I stay?' — face-down selection.
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Coaching
Finance and career

A coaching spread for facilitating goal achievement: defining steps, anticipating obstacles, finding resources.

DecksMoney, resource, coaching + universal
FormatWorking with a goal · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying effective steps towards the goal
  • Anticipating obstacles
  • Mobilising internal and external resources
Steps
  1. Card: 'The current situation' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'What do I want to achieve in the end?' — face-up selection or face-down selection.
  3. Cards 3–6: 'Steps towards the goal' — face-down selection, from a coaching deck. Placed between the first two.
  4. Card: 'What factors might hinder me on the way to the goal?' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'What resources can help me succeed?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
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SWOT analysis
Finance and career

A classic SWOT analysis using cards: strengths and weaknesses, opportunities and obstacles. Useful for people seeking self-realisation and those starting a new venture.

DecksUniversal, portrait, money + resource
FormatStrategic analysis · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Strategic personality analysis
  • Developing self-reliance, flexibility, and adaptability
  • Useful in times of change
Steps
  1. Card: 'My strengths' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'My weaknesses' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How can I turn my weaknesses into strengths?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What qualities should I develop?' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'Opportunities' — face-down selection.
  6. Card: 'Obstacles' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'How to use the opportunities?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  8. Card: 'How to respond to obstacles to extract benefit?' — face-down selection.
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What kind of woman am I
Femininity

Exploring the different roles of a woman: how she presents herself to the world, how she appears in relationships, who she really is inside. Reveals the discrepancy between the Social Self and the True Self.

DecksUniversal, portrait, thematic
FormatFemininity · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Exploring the different roles of a woman
  • Discovering the discrepancy between the Social Self and the True Self
  • Determining the direction of change
Steps
  1. Card: 'Who am I really?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'How do I present myself?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  3. Card: 'How do men see me?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'In what direction should I change to find personal happiness?' — face-down selection.
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Sexuality analysis
Femininity

Exploring one's own sexuality: comparing self-perception with how men perceive the client, identifying qualities to develop or change.

DecksUniversal, portrait, thematic
FormatFemininity · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Exploring sexuality
  • Comparing self-perception and men's perception
  • Identifying qualities to develop
Steps
  1. Card: 'What is my sexuality? Who am I in intimate relationships?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'How do men see me?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'What qualities do I need to develop in myself?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What qualities should I let go of?' — face-down selection.
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Ideal partner
Femininity

Searching for the key qualities of a partner for comfort and safety in a relationship. Helps form a unique perspective instead of the stereotypical 'prince on a white horse.'

DecksUniversal, portrait, thematic
FormatWorking with relationships · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Forming a unique image of a partner
  • Awareness of conscious and unconscious expectations
  • Breaking down stereotypes
Steps
  1. Card: 'Who am I?' — face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'How do I behave with men?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  3. Card: 'What kind of relationships do I build?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What kind of men do I attract?' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'My ideal man' — face-up selection.
  6. Card: 'How would I feel in a relationship with such a man?' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'What kind of man do I actually need?' — face-down selection.
  8. Card: 'What will help me attract the right man?' — face-down selection.
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Feminine essence
Femininity

Exploring and realising the feminine essence — the drive towards love, sensuality, care, and creating harmony for those around.

DecksUniversal, portrait, thematic, resource
FormatFemininity · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Exploring the feminine essence
  • Realisation in different roles (mother, wife)
  • Understanding what attracts and repels men
Steps
  1. Card: 'How developed is the feminine essence in me?' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'How does the woman-mother manifest in me?' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'How does the woman-wife manifest in me?' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'What will help me most fully express my feminine essence?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  5. Card: 'What in me attracts men?' — face-down selection.
  6. Card: 'What in me repels men?' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'Am I experiencing feminine happiness?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  8. Card: 'What will contribute to my happiness?' — face-down selection.
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Feminine happiness
Femininity

Helps answer the question 'what do I need for happiness' and find the path to it. Useful when a woman knows that what she has is not what she wants, but cannot articulate what she is looking for.

DecksUniversal, portrait, resource
FormatFemininity · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Identifying the unique 'components' of happiness
  • Finding the path to obtaining them
  • Letting go of what hinders
Steps
  1. Card: 'What kind of woman am I?' — face-down selection or face-up selection.
  2. Card: 'What does my happiness look like right now / how happy am I?' — face-up selection.
  3. Card: 'What do I need for happiness?' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  4. Card: 'How can I contribute to my own happiness?' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'Who or what hinders my happiness?' — face-down selection.
  6. Card: 'Who or what contributes to my happiness?' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'What do I need to develop in myself?' — face-down selection.
  8. Card: 'What do I need to let go of?' — face-down selection.
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Feminine wisdom
Femininity

A deep self-exploration: experience, strengths and weaknesses, fears, and inner backbone. The foundation of wisdom is crystallised experience.

DecksUniversal, portrait, resource
FormatFemininity · with a specialist
Technique goals
  • Making sense of one's own experience
  • Understanding strengths and weaknesses
  • Identifying pillars in life
Steps
  1. Card: 'Way of thinking' — face-down selection.
  2. Card: 'Emotionality' — face-down selection.
  3. Card: 'Core idea, life purpose' — face-down selection.
  4. Card: 'Fears' — face-down selection.
  5. Card: 'Hopes' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.
  6. Card: 'Past experience' — face-down selection.
  7. Card: 'Foolish, wrong strategies and patterns' — face-down selection.
  8. Card: 'External support, resources, help from outside' — face-down selection, from a resource deck.

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